Working Mommy Burn Out

Depression and burnout can creep up on a busy mom especially if she is a busy professional like a lawyer as well.  Most working moms have that stubborn Type A overachiever style of personality very few are willing to admit a weakness, such as exhaustion or depression. This is because most professionals are trained to at least impervious to any outside stress as well as to not stop pursuing a matter until it is concluded.

 Some moms on the experience a gradual worsening of symptoms and others are felled by it seemingly overnight with no warning. It really does depend on the individual and the types of stress they are under.  

Yet another insidious fact of life when it comes to depression and burnout is that not everybody experiences all of these symptoms. Some people may only find one sphere of their daily existence affected, such as their physical wellness and not appear to have problems in other areas such as work. However usually depression begins with physical symptoms that include disturbances in sleep, extreme weight gain or loss, excess snacking or no appetite, fatigue, lack of energy, loss of libido, digestive problems, headaches, difficulty concentrating, memory problems, inability to make a decision, imagining suicide, sadness, shame, guilt, irritability, emotional withdrawal, crying spells, restlessness, neglect of personal hygiene, inability to keep up and substance abuse. 

Burnout is a type of depression but the symptoms of fatigue, apathy and negativity are extreme. The person may be so tired that they may not be able to focus at all on work. They become overwhelmed by a loss of control over circumstances in life (such as a spouse leaving) or by being unable to meet deadlines. Ironically the last thing that some working moms on the verge of burnout are exhausted. 

Many use their Type A personalities to keep plugging on against great odds of success. In fact many who are actually burnt out seem to be incapable of cutting back on the number of hours they spend at work. Many people can't get out bed when they are burnt out. It is often accompanied by illness and an abuse of recreational drugs.  By the time a person is burnt out he or she is usually also worthy of a diagnosis of clinical depression. Some doctors will also diagnose this as chronic fatigue symptom. This individual needs to come out of self-imposed isolation and talk about problems.

A life coach can also help a person suffering from depression cope with inappropriate feelings of shame and know the difference between how one feels about reality and what is really going on. This can really help a depressed or burnt out depression gain perspective and strength and move on to reorganize their lives so that they feel more health.  Sometimes what is needed is a regiment of psychological or psychiatric treatment that may or may not include drugs to treat the exhaustion or depressive aspects.

The Indoor Camping Party

Throwing an indoor sleep over camping party for kids featuring fun campfire foods such as Cheez Whiz soup, s'mores and Dough Boys as well as interactive group games, campfire sing-a-longs and constellation watching is a great idea. A sleepover camping party for kids makes an ideal birthday party, or it can just be a way to introduce younger children to the concept. You can of course just throw this type of party out doors but all you really need is a room that is.  big enough to support enough pup tents to accommodate the number of children invited. 

If you have a fireplace you can roast hotdogs, foil wrapped fries and s'mores over the flames. With a little planning and some simple ground rules, your children’s sleepovers will be a real hit. 

First, you’ll want to come up with a plan for the evening. Have your child think of a list of sleepover mates to invite. A good rule is that your child can only invite the number of kids that corresponds with their age. For example, if your child is 5, they may invite 5 guests. The recipes below are for a children's party of 8 or more, as that is how many hot dog buns come in a package! 

Next, you’ll want to make an enticing indoor campout invitation. One clever idea is to buy a rubber stamp in a shape that corresponds with camping theme and stamp on the front of plain cardstock. Enclosing a little laser flashlight or plastic flashlight on a keychain is a nice pre-party gift.  Fill in the time, place, date, and make it clear what items each child will need to bring. Asking them to each brings their own flashlight and pajamas are a good idea. The cheapest thing is to borrow the tents you need from the neighbors or ask the child's parents to bring one in advance. 

Also on the invitation you will want to give the parent's some idea of the menu. This can help them identify foods their children might be allergic to.  Ideas for food include Bubble Tea, Cheez Whiz soup, Chili Cheese Fries and Banana Boats. Hamburgers, hot dogs and beans can make great main courses. I

t is probably not a good idea to play music at this type of party as it might disturb the neighbors. However, if you play guitar you can always engage the children in a sing along.  A good game instead is to have each child make up a ghost story as they sit inside their pup tents. If they are not too young you can also encourage them to read from a book of ghost stories. Of course this entire party can be held out doors in the summer. The thing with outdoor parties is that you need strict supervision of the children by adults especially if you have a swimming pool in your back yard. However it is really nice to also cook those hamburgers and hot dogs over a real fire if it is warm enough.