Single Parent Dating Issues

If you are a single parent who is trying to date you have probably have issues about dating again. Here are just a few of the concerns that most single moms and dad have about venturing onto the dating scene to find a new love.

It is true that many single men and women have a second job to help them support the family. Between working and cleaning and caring for the children this leaves little time for a romance. Many single parents just want to come home and pass out in bed.

The upshot is that you have to plan your new dating life the same way you would anything else in your life as a single parent. You need to set aside a certain amount of time every week to get a makeover, fix yourself up and find a good babysitter.

So many single parents are also out of shape physically. This is due to leading a stressful lifestyle that leads to bad eating habits and a lack of exercise.

Furthermore many single parents always put their kids first and never splurge on the kind of makeovers or clothing that would be more attractive to the opposite sex.

Basically if you are serious about dating spend some time on your skin, your hair and working out and buy yourself some clothes that shows the opposite sex that you mean business when it comes to love.

Many candidates on the single parent dating scene are single because they have been burned by an ex partner. They are not in good shape emotionally. It may even take some single men or women to get into the dating scene again and it can be really difficult emotionally.

The thing that will help the single parent who is ready to love again the most is to get over his or her fear of what can happen. Trying to have a sense of humor about the past can help. In order for a single parent to have a healthy new relationship there must be some kind of attempt made to deal with pas resentments. It can be very difficult to allow yourself to be loved again but it is often the right thing to do, especially if you want your children to have a new mommy or daddy in their future.

Most single parent dating can be arranged through dating sites only for singles parents like SingleParentFlirt.com but that approach is not for everyone. You can definitely people offline as well. You can find mixers and events planned by entrepreneurs at bars and night clubs. There are also things out there like walks in the parks for singles and single dances. Churches sometimes hold dances for newly divorced or widowed parents as well.

The Pampered Child Syndrome

Lately, I have become quite interested in this book by Dr. Maggie Mamen called The Pampered Child Syndrome which is all about that one kid that takes over your entire family's priority. In fact these kids can take over everything including family harmony, financial considerations, respect for others and even common sense. In fact the other day I was in a restaurant just because of such a brat. I was just sitting down to a wonderful meal with my friend, who was a new mother in forties when suddenly her darling new child started bawling. She looked at me, and said, 'I'm sorry. We can't have this dinner. Little Delilah June wants to go!' The other lady I was with looked at her in shock and said, 'But we just got here…the child does not control how long we stay here for dinner.' The mother, a slightly insecure hysterical type kept talking about how we all had to do what Delilah wanted or Delilah would hate her. She had no idea that she should control the situation and seemed afraid of losing the approval of a two year old child.

This type of syndrome where innocent little kids push you around and cause havoc in everyone's lives is called Pampered Child syndrome. Don't think this can't be a problem because this same woman let her child take control of her entire social life for the next few years to the extent that she never got to date anyone and she lost all of her friends because she could never leave the kid with a babysitter. At age five little Delilah June was still nursing because even though she had sharp teeth, her mother did not have a strong enough will to tell her that it was time to stop.

If you do have this type of problem or know someone then Dr. Maggie Manen's The Pampered Child Syndrome: How to Recognize It and How to Avoid It might help. She has also written other books about boundaries, tough love about raising kids including Who's In Charge?, Laughter and Love and Limits.

It's a good thing to take away power from a little kid who has too much power. For one thing, children know it is wrong for them to have authority and power that they are ill equipped to handle. As they grow older they become control freaks and develop serious social and psychological difficulties.