Does Your Kid Have Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

Are you the parent of a difficult contrary child who is a bully? Oppositional Defiant Disorder or ODD s the diagnosis often given when a child displays an ongoing pattern of noncompliant, aggressive and defiant behavior toward teachers, parents or any authority figure. In short it means your child is a compulsive bully!

Kids with ODD display a hostility and contrariness goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. Children who have this disorder appear disobedient and angry, even exasperated over very minor or simple requests. Common behaviors include relentless fits of anger, temper tantrums and angry outbursts, and contempt for authority. Some children with ODD will even become violent with their parents. Mothers who have children diagnosed as ODD report that more often than not, requests are met with arguments that go on forever. Whenever bad things happen, everyone else is too blame. Physical fighting is common among children with ODD and their siblings. Nothing is ever fair, and children with ODD are often jealous, resentful and seek active revenge against other children who are somehow showing them up. For instance, the brother who beats up a sister may be doing it because she got an A and he got an A minus. In fact, a kid with this disorder needs very little motivation to become angry, hen pecking and incredibly violent.

In order for a child to meet the criteria for an official diagnoses ODD the child's behaviors must cause significant stress and difficulty for the family academic progress must be stalled. The oppositional behaviors must persist for an extended period of time, at least six months. In this case the doctor will look at all the factors and often prescribe medications that sadly, may or may not improve the situation.

Although there is no single cause for ODD, doctors suggest that a mix of genetic and environmental factors can cause the behavior . Developmental delays, natural temperament and unbalanced brain chemicals are often at fault. Abuse, neglect and overly harsh discipline can also create a child that is predisposed to ODD.

The most successful treatment for ODD has been behavioral therapy for the family. That's right. The family. That is because the family is often rewarding these negative behaviors. Group workshops with the kid and the family are often successful at allaying the problem as well. Often behavioral modification is more successful than other ways when it comes to solving these problems.

What Parents Need to Know About Cutters

A cutter is a child, usually a girl (but boys can develop it too) who cannot stop injuring herself. They harm their own bodies by creating a wound so they do not have to feel other feelings. It helps them get out of experiencing a mood or emotional state that feels painful. Many people who do this will cut themselves but hitting one, burning, scratching and biting is also quite common. Banging the head compulsively is also related to cutting.

The reason children practice self-industry is because they need to release physiological and psychological pain quickly. They go from a state of panic to a state of calm very quickly. The most common denominator in kids who cut themselves is being unable to express their feelings. Usually these kids have had something abusive happen and re unable to handle it. Cutting gives the child a sense of self-control. Rarer is the child that cuts herself as a form of self punishment. Many use it to feel a sense of control when they are being controlled. They use it ritualistically to express feelings that they otherwise have no feelings for.

Sometimes this is part of a larger distressing disorder. Some kids may be more aggressive and impulsive than other then more likely to mutilate themselves. It is rarely done to fit in with other kids or because everyone is doing it.

Although parents may not be able to prevent this disturbing compulsive disorder you need to talk about it with your teen. You should make sure you are not doing all of the talking and listen to the child. Often a frustration with communication is at the root of this and the kid needs to express him or herself.

Like with other addictions, a kid cannot be forced not to cut herself. She will like sneak away and keep doing it if you try to control it. Do not issue ultimatums or punish the self-destructive behavior. Threatening to hospitalize or institutionalize a self-injurer can make feelings of lack of control and make the situation even worse.
You need to ease the kid into therapy for the problem if you are to get rid of it forever. There many therapeutic techniques employed by mental health professionals to help him. It’s best to consult a professional with specific experience working with kids who mutilate themselves. There may be underlying serious mental conditions that need to be diagnosed.