When PreSchoolers Swear

It's easy to pick up swear words and you can't really blame children for it. Most of them think it is part of normal language. The worst is when your little enunciator is only two years old and starts swearing like a sailor in his high chair. Of course the most likely place he or she heard these words in the first place is probably from you.

Still it is very disturbing seeing this little angelic being cursing like the devil even if it is kind of funny. Some kids swear just as you feel that you might come out with a few curse words of your own.

The upside here is that if your kid is swearing it is a good sign he or she is listening to everything. It is natural for a kid to pick up words fast and a sign that he or she catches on quickly. The thing is too that they will catch up on words that have some kind of emotion attached to them.

The worst thing you can do is encourage a baby to swear by smiling or laughing. This is just positive reinforcement and he or she will just do it more. Swearing can get them into big trouble if they go back to school. Best to nip this kind of thing in the bud before they are called down to the principal's office or you get that call at home that your kid is a bad influence on the other children in the home.

One way to stop your kids from imitating you from swearing is to stop doing it yourself. Simply avoid bad language. Try alternative expressions to swear words such as hogwash, phooey, nuts, shoot or blast it. This also makes your kids laugh and it just does not sound as bad as the real cursing.

One of the challenges here is that a kid under the age of three is often saying words with little ability to know what they mean. It is after their third birthday that the comprehend the meaning of what they are saying more. Once your kid is over three years you are more likely to get a response if you say something like 'This is not a word we use in our family.' Or 'This is not a polite word.'

Another trick is to make the word and not the child bad. Do not shame the child for using the language. Instead point out the bad word and encourage the kid to move away from it psychologically. A shamed kid is also more likely to swear out of nervousness and it becomes a vicious cycle.

If your four year old swears a short time out might help. You could also try taking away a favorite toy. If your older kid swears then it is time for grounding, withdrawal of allowance or time spent in their rooms. Forget the old washing their mouths out with soap. Nobody does this anymore.

It’s Not Too Late for a Summer Job

If your teen has not gotten a summer job by now it is definitely time. Don't let him or her slack off all summer. You are only teaching him or her that it is aright to be a bit lazy. Also you if you have a kid about to go into college you are wasting valuable time that could be spent earning income.

There are a couple of things that you can do to help your teen find summer work. This is good to keep your teen busy over the summer. They earn cash and learn responsibility. The money they make can go towards saving for college or even to you depending on what your circumstances dictate. Unfortunately poverty is such a problem in the United States that many teens work just to support families instead of saving for college.

Still they are not far away from that time in life when they will have to become full-fledged workers in society. This means developing a work ethic and sense of discipline. The more varied the businesses are that your teen works in the better of he or she will be. Being employed also keeps your teen off of the street and teaches them to be self-sufficient.

You can help your teen find a summer job. Half the time it is just asking the local business or friends who own local businesses if thinned help. You can also put your heads together with your kid's teacher or guidance counselor to figure out what might be a good place for him or her to look for a job. Often the schools know if any local factories or corporations are hiring and what companies are offering special student programs.

I always try to get my teen some kind of outdoor job so that he or she is not cooped up in an office mall or basement of some kind all summer. I try to help him or her find a job I would like and that still offers them chance to get some fresh air. Witnessing on a patio or landscaping is good jobs for that.

Once your teen gets a job they have an opportunity to learn how to take orders, how to rune business and how to deice what field of business they might want to go into after high school. It also gives them a chance to see how easy or hard certain businesses may be.

As a parent I know I want the very best for my teen. That is why I step in to help her find a job. I don't care if others see me as meddling. I only want her to get as much experience as possible and to be as autonomous in life as possible.