How to Find Child Care

Whether you’re heading back to work after a mat leave or you’ve moved to a new city, there are lots of factors to consider before your search begins, such as your schedule, location (and how much you can afford.
Next, consider your parenting style; you’ll want a caregiver who shares your childcare philosophies and goals or you could run into problems. If you’d prefer to send your child to a place that’s licensed and government regulated, run by professionals and one that offers an age-appropriate curriculum with daily routines, then childcare centers might be right for you. If you’d rather take your child to a caregiver’s house where an intimate and small group setting is encouraged, think about home childcare. And if you’re looking for help with your kids and some daily chores, you may opt for a live-in nanny.
Depending on your child’s age, childcare centers can be anything from a nursery school to a before-and-after-school program. The way to start investigating this is by calling a handful of potential centers and ask how long they’ve been operating, if they’re licensed, the age range of the children in their care and the ratio of staff to children.
You should also ask about availability. Are they accepting new clients? What are their qualifications? How many adults are onsite? Depending on age of the kids and where you live, you could be looking at $800 to $1,000 per month.
Follow up your phone calls by scheduling a tour, or better yet, drop in unannounced to see how the centre functions. Make sure there are fire detectors in the place and that the kids look content. Are they attentive, disciplined and pleasant? What will they do if your kid gets sick?
Go through a private home-daycare agency to find a placement for your child in a private home or conduct the search yourself. No matter how you choose to do it, you’ll want to look for someone who promotes a supportive learning environment in their home.
You should also ask about the number of children in the program, hours, health policies (television rules, sample menus, daily schedules and references.
Be prepared for the caregiver to have her own questionnaire, says Bernard. She’ll ask for parent contact information, medical history, favorite toys, allergies, diet restrictions, emergency contacts and who is permitted to pick the children up. The more permission the place requires the better it probably is as they are trying to protect your kid!

Ask for Help With Your Baby

One mistake I made when my baby was born was to turn into a control freak. I just would not let others help me with my problems. It's because I felt like I had to be hands on all the time. I was particularly mean to my partner that way. He felt like I did not trust him.
The truth is that I made a mistake by not letting the father of my child help me more. I did not give him the chance to help me with the baby. I treated him like he was clueless and therefore he acted like he was. It was not that I deliberately set him up to fail but I did not encourage him to help me as much as I should have. I also felt like I was going to have to teach him everything.
I regret that attitude especially as I see how great he is with the children now. I realize that he could have learned by trial and error how to take care of the kids just like I did. I was just as clueless as him when I took home our very first child.
Very few husbands walk away from helping. However there are that few that go 'You are much better than me than that stuff.' Don't let your husband get away with this. He is just as responsible as you for the post labor predicaments that take place. If you don't give them an opportunity to practice their parenting skills they will never learn them at all.
I found too that I had great success with simply turning to other women for help. I had many neighbours take me under their wings. As I was new when I first moved here they helped me find everything from a paediatrician to a yoga class to a preschool. They also kept me sane after the baby was born. I really do think that the wisdom and compassion of other women is absolutely essential after you give birth. It seems that only another mother can truly understand how excited, overwhelmed and scared we feel when we first have a baby. Let's face it! It is just too hard to talk to a man about things like nipple latching' or nipple cream.
Yet another good reason for bonding with women in your neighbourhood simply to help each other with things likes babysitting. I shared a sitter twice a week with one neighbour just to give my other kids some play time together and to keep the total costs of my babysitting down.
You might also have to eliminate friends who are just not that helpful or critical of your mothering skills. Some of us have friends that are giant children in themselves. They are like grown up little girls and expect you to mother them even after you have had a child of your own. Needy girlfriends may no longer be able to get the attention that they seek from you.