Dealing With Recession Worries

The recession is here and everyone is worried. Then as if the money worries are not enough some people also worry about everything from what others think to about their health. This is a big waste of time.
My opinion is that if 'the sky is going to fall it is going to fall and there is nothing that you can do about it.'
If you are chronically worrying then you are like a cigarette smoker. Your bad habit of worrying could be hurting your child too because insecurity can be contagious.
Worry is simply a negative habit that needs to be broken. Ninety seven percent of the things that we worry about simply never happen. Still with all the bad news on television about the economy it is hard not to be concerned.
Then there is the problem of knowing that something bad might happen because logic could dictate it so. In that case you need to get some coping skills.
If you can't change a particular problem then try forming a plan of action for how you will handle the situation. Tell yourself that you can handle anything. This also requires positive planning on your part.
Depression and anxiety are a waste of time. Especially if you are fussing over something over which you have no control.
To help eliminate worry from your life try the following
• Put your worries into two categories… those things you can control and those things that you have no control over. Let go of the things you can't control.
• Use the law of averages to try and decide how valid your worries are. What are the odds of the worst case scenario happening?
• Don't waste time making mountains out of molehills or giving power to trivial things.
• If money is the source of worry do something as interesting and productive as you can to improve it. The same thing goes for your health. Do not just sit there and worry. Go see a doctor.
• Analyze what it is your are worried about and define the cause of concern. What are all the possible alternatives to the problem. How can you put your plan into action.
• Live day to day and pull your mind out of the future.
If you are worryng about somehting very real that is sure to have a negative outcome then prepare yourself for the worst and accept it. Devote your time and energy to improving the end result for you.
• Keep active and busy. Worry is often the result of having too much time on your hands.
Hopefully this advice will help you get through until 20120 when they say this recession will finally be over for us all.

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Dealing With Anxiety Attacks for Moms

When I was a new mother my biggest problem was anxiety attacks. I just felt overwhelmed, alone and like I was under too much stress. It would happen to me at the most inconvenient times. I would feel breathless, panicky and run out of a grocery store — too weirded out to pay for the full cart of groceries I left behind.
If you are one of those personalities who has them here are some clues as how to deal with it.
Step 1 – Recognize that you are anxious. Accept the feeling and admit that it is a sign that something is bothering you.
Step 2 – Give yourself permission to feel anxious about what is bothering you and tell yourself it is okay to react.
Step 3 – Treat the anxiety by breathing. First inhale through your nose slowly for two seconds and while doing this mentally count one, one thousand, tow, one thousand. Then exhale to the mental count of fours seconds by one thousands. Do this for at least sixty seconds.
Step 4 – Talk yourself out of it. Tell yourself that this too shall pass. Tell yourself –'It is just anxiety.' It will go away.
Step 5 – Get busy. Do something that distracts you from what stimulated the stress. Your body is like a car in high gear with the brakes on. Get rid of the adrenalin high by running, cleaning or whatever you have to get rid of the disturbing feeling.
Step 6- Try to see the humor in the situation. You feel odd but you are not odd. Give into it and try to figure out what is really bothering you. It is some kind of conflict from the past rearing its head. Is it a scary thought? Is it an expectation that you can't possibly fulfill?
It takes time to cure this condition. It takes patience to retrain a brain that has become addicted to fear, anger and producing adrenalin. However the only way to stop being in fear of panic and anxiety is to experience them. It is the only way that you can condition yourself to believe that they can't hurt you. It is the only way to stop the vicious cycle of terrorizing yourself.
I know when I had this disorder that I felt very alone. I found it hard to talk to my partner about what was going on with me. It was hard to talk to my doctor as well. He was really into prescribing medication for me. I was not into that because I got addicted to lorezapam before when I was in college.
Sadly I do not recommend that you tell everyone about your anxiety. Leave it on a need to know basis. It is still seen as a sign of mental instability even if you can reduce it all down to hormones!

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