When PreSchoolers Swear

It's easy to pick up swear words and you can't really blame children for it. Most of them think it is part of normal language. The worst is when your little enunciator is only two years old and starts swearing like a sailor in his high chair. Of course the most likely place he or she heard these words in the first place is probably from you.

Still it is very disturbing seeing this little angelic being cursing like the devil even if it is kind of funny. Some kids swear just as you feel that you might come out with a few curse words of your own.

The upside here is that if your kid is swearing it is a good sign he or she is listening to everything. It is natural for a kid to pick up words fast and a sign that he or she catches on quickly. The thing is too that they will catch up on words that have some kind of emotion attached to them.

The worst thing you can do is encourage a baby to swear by smiling or laughing. This is just positive reinforcement and he or she will just do it more. Swearing can get them into big trouble if they go back to school. Best to nip this kind of thing in the bud before they are called down to the principal's office or you get that call at home that your kid is a bad influence on the other children in the home.

One way to stop your kids from imitating you from swearing is to stop doing it yourself. Simply avoid bad language. Try alternative expressions to swear words such as hogwash, phooey, nuts, shoot or blast it. This also makes your kids laugh and it just does not sound as bad as the real cursing.

One of the challenges here is that a kid under the age of three is often saying words with little ability to know what they mean. It is after their third birthday that the comprehend the meaning of what they are saying more. Once your kid is over three years you are more likely to get a response if you say something like 'This is not a word we use in our family.' Or 'This is not a polite word.'

Another trick is to make the word and not the child bad. Do not shame the child for using the language. Instead point out the bad word and encourage the kid to move away from it psychologically. A shamed kid is also more likely to swear out of nervousness and it becomes a vicious cycle.

If your four year old swears a short time out might help. You could also try taking away a favorite toy. If your older kid swears then it is time for grounding, withdrawal of allowance or time spent in their rooms. Forget the old washing their mouths out with soap. Nobody does this anymore.

Eating in Restaurants With Kids

Eating in restaurants with kids does not have to be a chore. You can get everyone through it with having to leave early because they are tired, restless or causing a scene.

Here are some ways to inject some sanity into the process of eating out with your kids.

Keep them amused while waiting for food to arrive. I do this by keeping little plastic games and also crayons and papers in my purse. Younger kids can draw and older kids can play a game like hang man.

Don't bother dressing the kids up unless it is a very fancy restaurant. They will just feel all stiff and uncomfortable. The more comfy they feel the more likely your children are to stay still at the table.

Don't give your kids a load of soda before the food arrives. This makes them all hyper. Serve them water or milk until the food comes. Sugar on an empty stomach makes them hysterical and then sleepy.

Admonish kids who are negative about food. Once one kids says they hate a food the other younger kids will refuse to eat it too. Don't bring the neighbour's kid if he or she is a picky eater. Simply do not tolerate this type of behavior or they will all start going eww and not eat their expensive restaurant food.

I have found that if I want to finish a meal in a restaurant then I have to be served first. Sometimes I just say to the waiter – 'serve me first'. If they finish eating before me then I won't get to finish my meal.

Take the kids to the bathroom before you all sit down. Make them all go at once. Otherwise you will spend your meal going back and forth to the bathroom.

Don’t let your child order some pricey item she’s never had before without having her first try an appetizer or tasting portion. Teenagers are famous for this. They will tell you that they want a Reuben or Shrimp Marinara and then make a face once it arrives. Stick with what you know and you can't go wrong.

Sometimes if we are in a restaurant where the food is unusual, like a Chinese restaurant, it helps to tell the kids that it tastes like something they already know and love. This is where the old 'it tastes just like chicken' cliché comes in handy.

Mostly it is good to stick to kid friendly restaurants until your children are a little older. This means dining at MacDonald's, Wendy's, Taco Bell, KFC and the like. There is no sense in stressing yourself by taking your kid somewhere fancy if you do not have to. Save that kind of restaurant for a date with your husband.