Sort through toy clutter

With so many choices, shopping for just the right toy can be an overwhelming undertaking for new parents who can find themselves endlessly roaming the aisles and the internet looking for the perfect play experience for their child. In fact, 65 % of those shopping for young children find it difficult to locate toys that help in learning and development. Now, eBeanstalk has come to the rescue…to save parents and gift givers time and worry.

The ultimate source for the tools to nurture the young child's physical and intellectual growth, eBeanstalk's unique concept offers parents a stress-free approach to toy buying. Every three months during the course of a year, a toy arrives at the customers' doorstep perfectly suited to match the stage of a child's development. Selected by a team of child specialists and a Mother Board consisting of over 500 new moms, each toy has been looked at, played with and selected from 10,000 toys to arrive at 400 of the best developmental toys available. Parents and gift givers can feel confident that each toy has been thoroughly researched and endorsed by child development experts and by real mothers looking for the best for their children.

Committed to 'planting the seeds that help children grow,' eBeanstalk also provides information to help parents understand the role of play in a child's development of cognitive, language, social, physical, and emotional skills. Accompanying each toy is an information card written by eBeanstalk experts describing why the toy was chosen, the skills that it helps to develop and how a parent and child can play with it together. The site also features message boards, Q and A's with eBeanstalk's experts, and a thorough list of developmental milestones, all designed to make eBeanstalk the place for new parents to find the child development information they need.

'Most development occurs within the first three years of life,' said Patrick Moore, co-founder of eBeanstalk. 'We found that there was a need to bring attention to how toys impact a young child's intellectual and physical growth. Our toys are matched to 3 month incremental stages, so eBeanstalk customers can be assured their child will get the appropriate toy when they need it. And by providing information that goes beyond the manufacturers' instructions, we believe we can enhance the child's quality of play.'
Brian Gordon, co-founder of ebeanstalk adds. 'As the parent of a newborn, I know first hand how mind boggling choosing the right toy for your child can be. All the toys look the same and there are thousands to choose from. And at eBeanstalk, we have found that just because a product is on the market does not necessarily mean it is safe. eBeanstalk cuts through the toy-clutter and offers new parents and gift givers a simple solution for providing children with the safest and most stimulating toys on the market.' With an array of the best developmental toys, games, puppets, puzzles, costumes, etc. from top manufacturers around the world, eBeanstalk's offerings are divided into five different stages of a child’s development: newborn; 1- to 2-years-old; 2-to 3-years old; 3- to 4-years-old and 4- to 5-years-old. Within each age range, customers can select one of several specially designed gift sets at different price points that are designed to bring the most age-appropriate, developmentally sound toys to the their doorstep every three months, delivered in a special eBeanstalk white gift box.

eBeanstalk's child specialists bring a comprehensive developmental approach to the task of toy evaluation and providing guidance for creative play. The five member team select the toys, create Graduated Play ideas for each toy, author the eBeanstalk instruction cards, and answer visitor questions. The team is comprised of: Dr. Andrew Eig, a clinical psychologist who focuses on social and emotional skills, Deanie Barth, a physical therapist who focuses on dexterity and locomotion skills, Shari Harpaz, a speech pathologist focusing on language and imagination skills, Barbara Greenspan, a pediatric occupational therapist focusing on dexterity skills, and Gopi K. Palel, a special educator who focuses on behavioral therapy and parent training.

But real moms are the heart of eBeanstalk. Over 500 new mothers (all with children from 0-5 years of age) from all over the United States comprise eBeanstalk’s Mother Board. The voluntary group acts as a nationwide ‘governing body’ — playing with new toys being considered for the site, rating each and every one of them, and providing valuable feedback. eBeanstalk is a website dedicated to helping children in their most critical time of development grow their minds and bodies, by supplying the highest quality, professionally screened, stage appropriate tools. Launched in September 2006, its founders, former marketing executives Brian Gordon and Patrick Moore, continue to move the eBeanstalk site beyond e-commerce to one that offers those interested in the development of children a place to come together and 'plant the seeds to help children grow'. Click here to visit them now.

The Difficulties Single Mums Can Have With Sons

Q. I’m a single mother. I have three children, Caitlin, 7, Tom, 9 and Liam aged 11. I don’t have problems with Cait, but the two boys are making life difficult. Tom apparently behaves well at school, but has learning problems. When he gets home he often throws temper tantrums. Liam acts as if he hates me. He doesn’t show me any affection and is extremely rude. Tom’s dad died when he was a baby, and Liam’s father doesn’t visit him. I need to find out what I’m doing wrong, since I’m so stressed all of the time.

A. I’m sorry you’re having problems with them. We all expect parenting to be fun and rewarding, at least most of the time.

The first thing you must do is to stop blaming yourself. Everyone makes mistakes, including you, but that doesn’t matter. What does matter is the course of action you take from now on.

Your daughter is doing well, proving that you have some good mothering skills.

It is also good news that your younger son is doing well at school. If he is able to settle down and work, even though he has learning difficulties, that is very encouraging. However, you might want to check with the school about how much he is struggling there, as it may be that he is bringing his frustrations home.

It’s most likely that both boys miss having their dads around. This is a hard problem to tackle. The youngest probably finds life easier since “a dead dad is better than a non-caring one”. That’s because he isn’t actually being rejected. You can’t do anything about the other dad except to be honest with your son. It isn’t a good idea to either defend or criticize him. If you make excuses for him your boy will take it as you being on the dad’s side. If you say negative things about him then the child will want to defend him, since he is his dad.

Don’t forget that we can’t change anyone, including our children. You can however, change yourself. Think about behaviors you can change in yourself that would make your life more serene. It may surprise you to know that if you feel more positive, your children will also feel more positive. On the other hand, if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, you will reap the same results.

Most of all, believe in yourself and your children. Don’t look back, look to the future and decide how you want it to be. Think in positive terms i.e. don’t think about what you don’t want, or what you worry about, think instead about what desired outcomes you do want. Don’t expect to get there in one day, but look for tiny little steps that will gradually take you there. And then do what it takes to get there. It will take a bit of effort at first, but then, living like you do now also takes effort. Read what you can. Talk to other parents. You will get there if you are prepared to make the effort.
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