Dealing With Recession Worries

The recession is here and everyone is worried. Then as if the money worries are not enough some people also worry about everything from what others think to about their health. This is a big waste of time.
My opinion is that if 'the sky is going to fall it is going to fall and there is nothing that you can do about it.'
If you are chronically worrying then you are like a cigarette smoker. Your bad habit of worrying could be hurting your child too because insecurity can be contagious.
Worry is simply a negative habit that needs to be broken. Ninety seven percent of the things that we worry about simply never happen. Still with all the bad news on television about the economy it is hard not to be concerned.
Then there is the problem of knowing that something bad might happen because logic could dictate it so. In that case you need to get some coping skills.
If you can't change a particular problem then try forming a plan of action for how you will handle the situation. Tell yourself that you can handle anything. This also requires positive planning on your part.
Depression and anxiety are a waste of time. Especially if you are fussing over something over which you have no control.
To help eliminate worry from your life try the following
• Put your worries into two categories… those things you can control and those things that you have no control over. Let go of the things you can't control.
• Use the law of averages to try and decide how valid your worries are. What are the odds of the worst case scenario happening?
• Don't waste time making mountains out of molehills or giving power to trivial things.
• If money is the source of worry do something as interesting and productive as you can to improve it. The same thing goes for your health. Do not just sit there and worry. Go see a doctor.
• Analyze what it is your are worried about and define the cause of concern. What are all the possible alternatives to the problem. How can you put your plan into action.
• Live day to day and pull your mind out of the future.
If you are worryng about somehting very real that is sure to have a negative outcome then prepare yourself for the worst and accept it. Devote your time and energy to improving the end result for you.
• Keep active and busy. Worry is often the result of having too much time on your hands.
Hopefully this advice will help you get through until 20120 when they say this recession will finally be over for us all.

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That Single Mother Victim Feeling

I was talking to a single mom friend of mine the other day and then I realized she was depressed. She told me the source of her depression was the fact that her partner had left her and was not paying child support. My real opinion though is that the source of her depression was really that she was putting herself in a victim role.
Depression and not standing up for you go hand in hand. Depressed people are often misunderstood because of this.
Depressed people are non assertive because they have a tendency to think badly of themselves. They are ready to blame themselves if something goes wrong.
They also have ea tendency to exaggerate problems. Everything is a catastrophic. They also take everything that happens personally.
They also believe that life is either one way or another. There is no gray area. They do not believe that they have chokes and that they are at the mercy of circumstances.
The bottom line is that if you think you are a victim you will be.
There are strategies for counteracting non assertive thoughts.
First of all you need to be familiarize yourself with what situations and individuals make you feel powerless
You also need to notice when you have a string of negative depressing thoughts. If you don't feel well, check your thinking. Retrace your thoughts and stop the parade of negative images that are dragging you down.
Remember to be firm and gentle with yourself. Practice that positive inner dialogue. Get rid of the inner critic and talk to yourself in compassionate kind tones.
If you are in the wrong about something make sure to own up and apologize. Do not mentally torture yourself for hours, days or a year. Offer to make things right.
If someone does give you a dirty look or makes a strange sound then just ask them directly 'Would care to share the reason for that?'
The same thing goes for someone who gives you a backhanded compliment. If someone says 'That color looks fantastic on you. You sure needed some color' ask for clarification. It makes the other person accountable for what you have just said.
You should also avoid making everything into a worst case scenario. Stop imagining the worst and you will naturally be more assertive.
You should also be careful of knee jerk reactions. These are thoughts that are automatic. Some of them are very negative and been with you for years.
Put your assertive foot down with others and they will see you as you should – as a good and worthy person. You are your own best friend and you are just as important as any other person on earth.
Once others see this then you are usually treated with more respect.

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