Managing a Toddler Tantrum

If you have ever had a slumber party for little girls at your home then you know that the most of these end up being a very crabby affair. This is because there is always lots of whispering, giggling and telling ghost stories late into the night. Sometimes there is also a great deal of fighting, crying and tickling and pinching and you name it …
To make sure there’s actually slumber at your child’s next slumber party for you and the kids there are certain tacts you can take.
Shorten the guest list. Handling four kids at night is easier than ten kids. Tell your child that she can invite fewer friends than for a daytime party and then just make the most of it.
Make sure the house rules are laid out clearly and with great confidence. They may test you, but children feel insecure if the adult isn’t in charge — and the more secure kids feel, the more easily they’ll sleep at night.
You should also create a quiet zone in the house that is set up far way from the sleeping area with snacks. Put cereal, muffins and other foods on the table for early risers. This means that kids can sneak downstairs and eat without waking up anyone to be fed (and that includes you…
Make a firm rule that there should “lights-out” at the outset. I let the kids talk after that as long as they don’t make noise or get out of bed. Once they’re in their sleeping bags and it is really dark they tend to stop talking. You can leave a night light on if you have a kid in the crowd who is a bit squeamish.
It is also very important to make sure that each and every one of your young visitors knows where the bathroom is so nobody is stumbling around waking up everyone at night with noise. It might also be a very good idea to not to serve kids a lot of liquids just before bedtime to prevent frequent bathroom visits and even possible night time accidents.
It also helps if you slow down. Even after the best sleepover, everyone’s tired the next day. Plan a quiet afternoon so both you and your child can relax. You can also expect your kid to be a bit out of sorts the next day.

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Ways to Hypnotize Yourself to Sleep

As a busy working mom I really don’t have time for insomnia!Have you ever had trouble falling asleep? If you frequently wake right up at night and can’t get back to seep you are about to get a crash course in what causes it and how to deal with it.

 

Here’s a little secret. Counting sheep does not work. This is because envisioning them jumping over the fence or over the fence is not that relaxing.If you’re mind is racing and all you hear is your thoughts is ‘My Mother in law hates me …’you might try visualizing a screen.

 

For instance if your inner voice is saying something negative in our head you can stop, replay the thought in your head and then say very slowly –
Mmmmmyyyyyyy mmmmmmmmmmoooooother iiiiiiiiiiiinnnnn lawwwwww hhhhhhaaaaaaaaaatttttesss meeeeeeeee …..

 

You can replay the above phrase over and over again in your mind until it fades completely.
Another method for stopping repetitive thoughts and making them disappear is to-do the following
My mother-in-law hates me
My mother-in-law hates….
My mother –in- law…
My mother…
My …
M …
….

 

This method is very effective for two reasons –

 

1. Itgive you something else to concentrate on rather than the content of the thought.

2. It puts focus on your mind which will drive your thoughts into a positive direction and preventing them from racing around everywhere

 

As you try to do this you will notice a little resistance from your mind from time to time. Simply apply the same technique to them over and over again.This technique works well if you are very visual person. If your mind is racing you can visualize your thoughts as if they were being written on a black chalkboard at the same time.Whenever a new thought arrive visualize yourself slowly wiping it off the chalk board so it is completely blank. Just take a big mental eraser to it and get rid of it.

 

If you are having one of those nights where you just can’t find the comfortable part of the bed then you need to know that it is not really the result of you being uncomfortable. It is the result of not feeling relaxed.\

 

On deeper feeling your body wants youth o relax but most of the item you interpret the message as needing to feel more comfortable in bed. True relaxation comes from within you and has to be triggered by your inner thought process.

 

The key is to learn how to get your mind of the subject so you can feel more relaxed. As you lay there for about fifteen seconds you will be shocked at how the urge to toss and turn simply fades and you realize that all you want to do is relax. Understand that if you start to toss and turn that it will not end with one toss of turn. You will create a momentum of movement that could last until dawn.

 

If you must move around in bed o it really slowly. Remember what it feels like when you wake up in the morning and you feel very sleepy. When you move real slowly put big bright smile on your face a take a deep breath. That should help prevent the agitation of waking yourself up at night.

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