Family Attitudes to Avoid During a Rehab

If you have an alcoholic in the family and he or she is trying to recover then there are 12 attitudes you should avoid taking towards the problem or it could make the problem worse. Whether the 'problem child' in the situation is actually your child or a spouse, there is a big risk of sabotaging your own best intentions if you are not careful about how you deal with the drug addict or alcoholic.
1. Do not encourage shame by portraying this as a family disgrace as recovery from addiction is a disease that can be recovered from.
2. Don't nag or lecture the alcoholic. This will only increase their need to lie and make promises that cannot be kept.
3. Do not take a martyr-like attitude that gives the alcoholic to feel the guilt and shame that triggers drinking
4. Don't use 'if you loved me' as an appeal as this only increases the guilt that triggers drinking.
5. Avoid threats (including ones to take them into alcohol treatment) unless you intend to carry them out as this badly complicates any trust that is between you
6. Don't hide their drugs or alcohol as this only pushes them to a state of desperation
7. Do not use alcohol with the alcoholic if you want him or her to stop
8. Do not try to protect the recovering alcoholic from situations where drinking is involved as they must learn on their own to say no
9. Do not demand that the person recover immediately and totally during alcohol treatment; there are going to be relapses no matter what happens
10. Do not be jealous of those in alcohol treatment who may also be trying to help your loved one stay sober, even if they are taking up a great deal of his or her time
11. Do not save the alcoholic. Instead let him or her suffer the consequences of his or her actions.

The one thing you should do is offer as much love, understanding and support that you can during the recovery. Be patient as alcohol treatment really can take some years to be effective. You should avoid being controlling, critical or cornering the addict in any way, especially if they are a rebellious teen or a teen that has a dual diagnosis of ADD, schizophrenia or bi-polar mania. The teen addict is especially rebellious and resistant to most good intentions seeing them as meddling and smothering rather than actually helpful.

Working Out Prevents Cancer in Moms

If you are like me you want to be around to enjoy your kids and grandkids as long as you can.

Two of the most common cancers in women are breast and endrometrial cancer. These are hormonally caused cancers that are caused by hormones going awry. Exercise can help with these 'female' cancers because physical activity has been shown to regulate and calm the production, metabolism and elimination of these toxins.

Studies have also shown that there is a relationship between being fatter and breast and endometrial cancer. Exercise obviously can help you lose weight so you do not become more susceptible to developing these hormonally based cancers.

This past fall, the American College of Sports Medicine published a study done in Canada that compared the activity patterns of 1,233 women who had breast cancer and 1,237 who did not have the disease. The study compared their exercise patterns over a lifetime as well as looked at how diet, alcohol and tobacco use and hereditary factors may have played into the development of cancer.
The Canadian found that the women who were least likely to develop breast cancer engaged in the moderate exercise of doing daily household or farming chores. Researchers concluded that it was not so much the intensity of the exercise that was helping, but rather the regularity of it.

In 2009 a massive study, based on questionnaires given to 121,701 women over twenty years from the ages 30 to 55 was conducted by the Nurses Health Study at Brigham and Women's Hospital and Boston. This study found that women who worked out between two to four hours a week reduced their chances of getting cancer by twenty percent. A smaller but similar study done in Norway in 1997 found the same thing. Women who exercised four hours a week were about one third less likely to get breast cancer.

In the Brigham study it was noted that the exercise reduces the level of circulating estrogens in a woman's body. The reason that this is negative is because estrogen stimulates the growth of breast cells which could mutate and cause cancer.

Women are actually vulnerable to these types of cancers their entire life. The most important thing is to exercise in moderation because if you exercise to the point that you have minimized your estrogen levels you can increase your risk of bone loss and heart disease.

Menopausal and post-menopausal women are at particular risk for cancer because they are overproducing and under producing hormones. Exercise has protective benefits for hormonal women because it helps to reduce fat and after menopause estrogen is produced in the fat cells instead of the ovaries.
The idea is that the leaner you are, the less natural estrogens you will produce. The less estrogens that are in the body, the less of a welcoming field your changing body will be to developing cancer.

You do not have to work out like a female fitness model. Simple, yet sustained activity is best. Try walking or cycling. As long as you working out consistently and every day you should be giving your body the edge when it comes to preventing breast or ovarian cancer.