How to Deal With Picky Finicky Kids

Are you your kid's slaves? Do you find yourself cooking several different meals for several finicky, picky kids who will not eat what is put in front of them?
Here are some clues as to how to get your kids to sit down and eat together. This is crucial as tiptoeing around several kids and cooking several 'made-to-order' meals in expensive and time-consuming.

You need to establish rules for a sit-down meal. . Turn the television off. Focus on conversation that includes everyone. Don't use dinner time to nag or punish your child for behaviors that aren’t related to mealtime. A kid that associates meals with getting punished ends up with eating disorders or worse – a lack of weight gain due to being too upset to eat.

Make it clear that at mealtime nobody leaves the table until you say so. He or she must stay seated and there must be decorum. No throwing of food, silverware, making funny faces or any of that.

You can reinforce good behavior at the table by complimenting your child whenever he or she does something right.

Finicky eaters might respond well to a time limit. Limit dinner to a half an hour. Make the kid eat everything during that time. If he or she does not finish by the end of the thirty minutes the plate is removed. This prevents the kid from dawdling while eating.

Don't let kids think that you are a short order cook. You can plan your menus in advance. Include your picky eater by letting him or her help plan the family menu, encouraging them to try something new. Children’s cookbooks are available to help with meal planning. Once you have created a menu, stick to your plan.

Denying a kid that won't eat dessert is far. Desserts or snacks should only be given if your kid finishes the previous meal.

Finally, make an attempt to make your children their favorite foods. This will encourage them to eat and also make them look forward to dinner. Encourage talk about food at dinner about why they like certain foods and not others. You can use dinner time to teach them about eating well, cooking and shopping.

Of course, not all picky eaters are control-freaks. If you suspect that a health problem is behind your child's picky eating then be sure to take him or her to a doctor for a check up.

Does Your Kid Have Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

Are you the parent of a difficult contrary child who is a bully? Oppositional Defiant Disorder or ODD s the diagnosis often given when a child displays an ongoing pattern of noncompliant, aggressive and defiant behavior toward teachers, parents or any authority figure. In short it means your child is a compulsive bully!

Kids with ODD display a hostility and contrariness goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. Children who have this disorder appear disobedient and angry, even exasperated over very minor or simple requests. Common behaviors include relentless fits of anger, temper tantrums and angry outbursts, and contempt for authority. Some children with ODD will even become violent with their parents. Mothers who have children diagnosed as ODD report that more often than not, requests are met with arguments that go on forever. Whenever bad things happen, everyone else is too blame. Physical fighting is common among children with ODD and their siblings. Nothing is ever fair, and children with ODD are often jealous, resentful and seek active revenge against other children who are somehow showing them up. For instance, the brother who beats up a sister may be doing it because she got an A and he got an A minus. In fact, a kid with this disorder needs very little motivation to become angry, hen pecking and incredibly violent.

In order for a child to meet the criteria for an official diagnoses ODD the child's behaviors must cause significant stress and difficulty for the family academic progress must be stalled. The oppositional behaviors must persist for an extended period of time, at least six months. In this case the doctor will look at all the factors and often prescribe medications that sadly, may or may not improve the situation.

Although there is no single cause for ODD, doctors suggest that a mix of genetic and environmental factors can cause the behavior . Developmental delays, natural temperament and unbalanced brain chemicals are often at fault. Abuse, neglect and overly harsh discipline can also create a child that is predisposed to ODD.

The most successful treatment for ODD has been behavioral therapy for the family. That's right. The family. That is because the family is often rewarding these negative behaviors. Group workshops with the kid and the family are often successful at allaying the problem as well. Often behavioral modification is more successful than other ways when it comes to solving these problems.