Does Your Kid Have Oppositional Defiant Disorder?

Are you the parent of a difficult contrary child who is a bully? Oppositional Defiant Disorder or ODD s the diagnosis often given when a child displays an ongoing pattern of noncompliant, aggressive and defiant behavior toward teachers, parents or any authority figure. In short it means your child is a compulsive bully!

Kids with ODD display a hostility and contrariness goes beyond the bounds of normal childhood behavior. Children who have this disorder appear disobedient and angry, even exasperated over very minor or simple requests. Common behaviors include relentless fits of anger, temper tantrums and angry outbursts, and contempt for authority. Some children with ODD will even become violent with their parents. Mothers who have children diagnosed as ODD report that more often than not, requests are met with arguments that go on forever. Whenever bad things happen, everyone else is too blame. Physical fighting is common among children with ODD and their siblings. Nothing is ever fair, and children with ODD are often jealous, resentful and seek active revenge against other children who are somehow showing them up. For instance, the brother who beats up a sister may be doing it because she got an A and he got an A minus. In fact, a kid with this disorder needs very little motivation to become angry, hen pecking and incredibly violent.

In order for a child to meet the criteria for an official diagnoses ODD the child's behaviors must cause significant stress and difficulty for the family academic progress must be stalled. The oppositional behaviors must persist for an extended period of time, at least six months. In this case the doctor will look at all the factors and often prescribe medications that sadly, may or may not improve the situation.

Although there is no single cause for ODD, doctors suggest that a mix of genetic and environmental factors can cause the behavior . Developmental delays, natural temperament and unbalanced brain chemicals are often at fault. Abuse, neglect and overly harsh discipline can also create a child that is predisposed to ODD.

The most successful treatment for ODD has been behavioral therapy for the family. That's right. The family. That is because the family is often rewarding these negative behaviors. Group workshops with the kid and the family are often successful at allaying the problem as well. Often behavioral modification is more successful than other ways when it comes to solving these problems.

Getting A Baby to Suckle

Getting A Baby to Suckle
A newborn that seems to be fussing and unable to enjoy eating may have troubles or issues around food later in life. The baby could become a picky eater or simply have bad associations with eating and end up being underweight.

It is essential that your baby “latch” on to the breast and learn how to suckle as part of a routine that teaches him or her to have a positive attitude towards food.

The basis of breastfeeding is getting the baby to latch on well. A baby who latches on well gets milk well. A baby who latches on poorly has more difficulty getting milk and therefore will be hungrier and gain less weight.

A baby that feels secure and comfortable in your arms has a better chance of getting optimum nutrition from breast feeding.

Try rocking the baby in your arms or sitting in a rocking chair. Support your back and arms with a pillow or necessary so that both of you feel stable and are not shifting around.

There are quite a few other ways you can convince your baby to suckle even if he or she is reluctant:
• Give your baby lots of attention and skin-to-skin contact
• Nurse without a bra
• Nurse the baby when he or she is sleepy. You will be more successful if you feed while he or she is drifting off or just starting to wake up
• Minimize distractions by nursing in a dark quiet room

Studies have also shown that having the two of you in the same room at night can also create a bond that makes feeding at the breast more relaxing and positive for the child.

If you are having trouble getting your baby to latch on you can also get a consultation with a lactation expert. Do not be afraid to get this advice. Most maternity and neo-natal care departments have a lactation expert on staff to specifically help women who have issues with breastfeeding.

And remember — If you are feeding your baby with a bottle be sure that all water you prepare formulas with is absolutely sterile. Giving your baby bad water can be fatal.

Do not try to force your baby to eat according to your schedule. It is simply not going to happen! For a healthy baby be sure to feed him or her when hungry. Feed your baby on demand!