Why Do Babies Cry?

Why do babies cry? For the same reason anyone cries, which is for about a million different possible reasons. But with a newborn, you’re handicapped as a mom: you aren’t yet communicating in spoken language, so for you it becomes a guessing game, hourly and daily and even minute by minute. Since babies often cry non-stop for up to two hours at a shot, it can often feel overwhelming, like you’re losing the guessing game. But there are ways to cut down the possibilities and help get to the ideal position of returning your child to a happy gurgling bundle of joy, all momentary needs addressed.
Just try to put yourself in the situation of your baby. First and foremost a baby will communicate by fussing and crying is she is hungry. Remember that the feeding for a newborn is constant, every few hours. If you are convinced your baby is crying for reasons of hunger, address the situation quickly. If the baby becomes TOO hungry then chances are that she will take the bottle too eagerly and gobble up a lot of air along with everything else. This will lead to spit-ups and probably more fussing and crying. If the baby is attacking the bottle with too much gusto, back away and try to feed her little by little.
If the baby doesn’t seem to be hungry, go directly to plan B: check your baby’s diaper right away. There’s nothing like a full diaper to get those tears flowing. Remember here that an incomplete or absent burping after the bottle can produce an upset tummy, which will lead to crying and eventual full diaper, so don’t forget: ABB! (Always Be Burping).
If the above reasons don’t seem to be the case, don’t forget that the average newborn sleeps just like an old cat – sometimes up to 18 hours a day. The child may be crying for the simple reason that her sleep was disturbed in some way. This is a time to remember that a quiet environment must be created and maintained for the child at all times. So turn down the music, turn up the listener-speaker and pay attention!
Finally, sometimes a baby, just like an adult, will become frustrated with her sleep position, or any waking position she happens to be in. In that case you just need to move her around, rock or carry her here and there, and you’ll see this can work wonders to quiet and soothe your crying child.

Leaving Your Kids Alone

Are you working your kids too hard. The latest movement in parenting is to leave your kids alone and I think I agree. They only get to be innocent and happy for so long. I am not even such a fan of homework for that very reason. Schools and governments are tyrannical and laying the homework on too thick. Furthermore too many kids that I see, especially ethnic ones, are coming up from school and then stuck working in the family business. Some of these poor kids are working twelve-hour work days between their part time jobs, homework and going to school in the first place.

Then there is the other type of parent that can't leave their kid alone because they are trying to raise a genius. They cram the kids day full of activities like judo, tennis, piano and art class. At home they are put on a program of watching educational televise or working on the computer. Now wonder our kids are so tired. Is a wireless Nintendo that far of a cry away from just handing the kid their own organizer like a Blackberry.

All these activities that we force on our kids impose costs on the parents and they also don't levee your kid any breathing room so he or she can just fool around. Yet another problem with overworking your kids is that it can cause their creativity to be stifled. Yet another problem is that children will develop the attitude that they always think they need others to do stuff for them on a full time basis. They forget to use their own problem solving abilities and fail to see innovative solutions or even obvious solutions to problems. They are overstrained.

Leaving your child alone does not mean being negligent. However it does mean being a little more carefree when it comes to raising them. You don't have to watch them every minute. And you do not have to run every single hour of their lives. Let them breathe and take a stroll every now and then. We are raising kids that are anxious way before their time. Many of them deal with the anxiety that we lay on them with bad habits. Younger children pick their nose or bite their nails. Older children start smoking, drinking and doing drugs. They are self-medicating to eliminate their anxiety.

You need not worry that your kid will be too lazy if you are not on his or her back all of the time. Most kids, when left to their own devices do find something to do. They like to be busy but on their own terms. Doing things on their own terms allows them to discover what they like doing in life as well as their own limitations. Without you around always making decisions for the kid they can learn to make decisions on their own. The result is a healthier, wiser and more confident adult in the end.