Is Your Kid a Bully?

Just who is a bully?? A bully is YOUR KID. A bully is someone who tries to control others through intimidation or violence. They pick on kids that are alone and that do not have a strong network of friends. They steal from other kids or destroy their property. Is this your kid?

Bullies do not know how to get attention in positive ways. To get attention they do what they have to. Many bullies think that bullying is just a fun game. They feel justified in picking on others because it makes them feel they are winning.

A bully does not always feel great about him or herself. They tend to have very low self-esteem no matter how much they swagger around or push others around. They pick on kids who are not hr fringe and rarely use their bullying powers for good.

The bully is often lonely and needs to find true friends. Weirdly, many are quite charismatic and can be excellent leaders despite their violent ways.

One distressing thing to realize is that bully is a learned trait. If you are dealing with a kid that is related to you that is bullying others you need to sit down and be honest with yourself and realize that the kid learned it from someone k- most likely you! Bullies who don't change their ways in when they are young to prevent adulthood filled with violence and aggression. These antisocial behaviors often result in employment problems, difficulty maintaining healthy relationships and even criminal behavior. That's why it is your duty as a parent to make sure that a kid that is bullying experiences strong negative consequences for doing it.

A bully is anti-social and the behavior can be hard to change. Parents also should make school officials aware of any bullying that is occurring, whether the victim is their child or someone else's child. School officials need to know, and so do the bully's parents. The bullyingneeds to be called out and named, but without shaming the bully who after all is motivated by fear and low-esteem.

If necessary you need to take an aggressive kid to a psychologist for behavior modification training. The good news is that the cycle of bullying can be ended if you train the child to think differently about himself (or herself) and others early on. It also helps to check your own behavior to see how you are somehow teaching your child to pick on others.

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Respect In Family Relationships

If you want to raise a kid that has excellent character then teach him or her to be respectful. You must not tolerate disrespectful behaviors like demeaning, yelling and emotional blackmail. Respecting each other’s feelings does well for the parent-child relationship.

You need to teach your kid to honor the individual worth a dignity of other human beings. All human beings have value. People are not to be used or manipulated for the power to get ahead.

Par to f respect is treating others with courtesy. Basic politeness promotes positive human relationships. They should accept the differences between individuals and judge people on their character and ability and not appearances or on how much money they have.

One of the worst things you can do is show signs of disrespect like defensive body language or a refusal to listen. Interrupting and using a nasty or sarcastic tone of voice should be discouraged in yourself and your kids. Never imitate your kid’s voice or belittle them for asking a simple question. Never ever make fun of a child’s appearance.

Kids have feelings and you can avoid a lot of trouble by letting your kid know that he or she is hard.

Self-respect is also an issue. Respecting yourself is about respecting others. When it comes to being a parent you need to respect the autonomy of other and be respectful of your child’s autonomy. This means to see the child separately from yourself. Allow him or her to make his or her own decisions.

To enforce these basic rules of respect it is important to point out to a teen or a child when he or she actually is disrespectful. Explain it but do not chastise the child too hard for it.

Learn how to agree to disagree. You can disagree with someone without demeaning them. Let your child know that differences of opinion are sometimes to be cherished; they make us all unique.

Furthermore, you have to set a good example. How you act as a parent means even more than you say. Walk your talk. Listen to your kid without criticizing and use positive language. Respect your teen’s possessions and their right to make their own decisions.

Parents should respect their teen’s privacy, unless you have cause for real concern. It is okay to check their child’s cell phone, computer or room if they think their teen is in danger or is involved in immoral, illegal or dangerous things.

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