When Mom Needs a Time Out

Its not just kids that are bad. Sometimes mom gets cranky so she needs a time out. Kids do not tell Mom to take a time out. She tells herself it is time to go. However she does not sit in the corner. Instead she treats herself to a time out in spa or overnight at a hotel.

The reason time outs are so important for moms is that if she is not happy then nothing can go smoothly. Sometimes the pressure of being a mom is too much and for the good of everybody she needs to a bit of escaping. She does not have to do it often. Maybe a time out is only necessary every three to six months. It really does depend on the individual and how much is going on in life. After all it is extremely important for Mom not to neglect to take care of herself. That is because it is her role to provide a safe stable home environment. If you have sole custody and your ex-husband lives far away, you play both roles of Mom and Dad. It can be very draining financially and physically.

Mom desperately needs a separate identity and life from her children or she will talk in baby talk all day. When your children are adolescents it is not as hard as they don't want as much to do with you anyway. They may even spend a lot of time avoiding you.

Although having children is a blessing you also need a break from them every now and then. If you can't take a big break then you might want to make sure you have a hobby you would like to be involved in. You might also want to make sure you link up regularly with friends. It also helps to get a babysitter or get your mom to watch the kids and go on a day trip every now and then. Visit places that you have always wanted to go to.

You have to put yourself first every once and a while as that is really essential, to remaining a healthy, stable person.

Personally I like to get a sitter for a night and a day and check into a nearby hotel. It is just downtown and the hotel has a spa. If something happens to the kids I am only about twenty minutes away. I try to time my escapes during times in my life when other people, like their Dad, are around to take care of the children. I never take a time out when a c held is sick or in a crisis. That is not the point.

If I am really stressed but can't get away I lock my bedroom door and take a nap. Or I take a long relaxing bath with the door locked. Taking just a few hours every now and then to myself does wonders fro my mood which of course always results in better behavior from the children.

New Born Tips For Moms

Are you just welcoming a new little person into the world? Here are some tips to taking great care of this fragile little human at first.

TIP #1 – If your baby is not properly latching on your nipple to suckle then there is no point in wasting any time. Take yourself and the child immediately to a lactation consultant. These are staff members in hospitals who can show you how to get the baby to latch onto your nipple properly. Don't wait for the baby to 'get it' as the baby can become fatigued; lose weight and even face life-threatening conditions if you do not get him or her latched on immediately.

TIP #2 – While nursing most mothers find it most comfortable to put pillows behind the small of her back and behind her shoulders if she is sitting. If she is sitting up in bed it helps to put pillows under your knees and one in your lap (to help bring the baby up to the level of your chest.

TIP #3 – To raise a happy baby consider carrying him with you in a sling and carrying him or her with you wherever you go. Studies have shown that babies who are constantly carried are less fussy

TIP#4 – To keep your baby happy while you are during other things like preparing dinner or cleaning the house put him or her in a swing. Some newer swings even oscillate in a circular motion rather than the traditional back and forth motion. It’s best to borrow a swing or try one out on your baby at the store to avoid investing in something that your baby

TIP #5 – If your baby seems really fussy or anxious then try touching him or her more. Try gently massaging all parts of your infant's body including the toes, fingers, bellies and ears. This can help relax and soothe the child.

TIP #6 – If you are dealing with a really distressed or panicky newborn then try nursing him or her while sitting in the bathtub. Place the baby in direct contact with your naked skin as you lie in a warm bath and nurse him or her. This is sure to calm down even the most hysterical of screaming infants.

TIP #7 – No matter how irritating it is to you recognizing that your baby's crying is an attempt to communicate to you. It is never an attempt to torture you or to be bad. Whatever you do you should never let a baby 'cry it out' as that is psychologically damaging to the child. Never punish a child or treat it harshly for crying.

TIP #8 – This tip is for new Mom's who often feel burnt out. It is very invigorating for both you and the baby to take a walk every now and then to get some air and also relieve feelings of depression or anxiety. Studies have shown that walking briskly every day for a minimum of forty-five minutes can help alleviate the symptoms of post partum depression.